The Couple’s Retreat was an amazing weekend filled with so much growth in many marriages. A marriage needs maintenance, a check-up once in a while to see how it is functioning for both parties. The retreat ended with couples asking questions and our pastoral panel and wives answering them. Below are a handful of those questions and how our leadership responded.
My husband and I are a blended family but want another baby. Do you have advice on having a big family?
Pastor Jim Crews: I came from a big family and there were some great benefits of it! Holidays and get-togethers are always fun! But it can also make other things difficult, such as finances for the family. My parents had to make sacrifices to have a big family.
Pastor Ron: I’m often sick because I wish we had more kids. You should pray over the number of kids you should have. Pray about it with God. If God is laying on your heart to have another kid, than do so.
How can we encourage friends dealing with infertility?
Pastor Ron: You have to encourage them that it’s not God’s fault. Don’t blame God. We can turn the conversation, because there are so many kids out there that need parents. We have had 7 kids total; many coming through the foster care system.
Tara Crews: We believe that God always has the last say. We’ve known people that have been told they wouldn’t have kids, but now do. But, I also believe that the foster care system and adoption is a great avenue.
What does good spiritual leadership look like in the home?
Mike Maggard: You need to be consistent in prayer, reading your Bible, going to church, etc. We need our family to see us do this. Men need to step up and tell the family that we are going to church.
Vicky Loman: You can be a spiritual leader that is quiet. You don’t have to be a type A personality to be a spiritual leader.
Mary Maggard: Mike earned my trust because I saw him in God’s Word. For the decisions he set, I could know that God was in the mix. Ladies, we need to respect the position of the man leading.
Debbie Vietti: Ladies, if you don’t see your husband as the spiritual leader, you should be a woman of prayer because you can change the world… and your husband through prayer!
How can you overcome when you spouse has been unfaithful?
Debbie Vietti: Many of you know Ron and my testimony. Probably, at one time I thought I wasn’t going to forgive him, and I asked God to work on my heart. During that time, God made me feel bad for this person. I prayed healing. God knew my heart. After God healed it, I did not see my husband in that way anymore. I feel like Satan has tried to whisper in my ear many times to doubt the healing God did. This marriage is beyond you. He (God) gives you the strength, the mercy, the grace to make it through.
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